Category Archives: Obituaries

Please Sign My Friend’s Petition — Justice and Answers for her Son and the Family.

Dear Friends,

David P

I am breaking away from my usual light banter to discuss a very serious matter.  It all makes me so sick.

My old school friend Shawn has suffered an unspeakable tragedy, as her son, David, who was unarmed, was shot and killed by a firefighter on a highway in North Carolina. These are the details so far according to the petition:

David Pittarelli while unarmed was shot and killed on April 30th, 2015 by Ryan Cochran, a Kannapolis firefighter.  It is said that the parties did not know each other and that there was no reported indication of how the supposed argument started.  Nothing can make right that Ryan Cochran emptied his entire clip of his gun on an unarmed man.  There has been mention of witnesses but no one has come forward.  The shooter Ryan Cochran has not been charged and is on paid leave from his position as a firefighter.  We are asking that this be further investigated and that charges be filed as this is clearly not a case of self defense and there are many questions left unanswered with the information that has been given. We feel as though there is a conflict of interest in the investigation because firefighters and police officers that work together in the same county.  David Pittarelli deserves justice and with your help justice can be served.   

Letter to
Concord North Carolina Police Department
Gary Hatley Concord Police Chief
Cabarrus County District Attorney’s Office
Further Investigation into the murder of David Pittarelli an unarmed father.

As my friend Shawn wrote:

I’m David’s Mom and my dear friend reminded me all I need to do is to speak my truth. I ask any witnesses to come forward and speak their truth for David, his son Kai and David’s family. I only had two conversations with the police which left me with many more questions than answers (I am still waiting for the Saturday 7pm update Detective Smith promised). He just kept repeating ‘I’m sorry I can’t answer that Ma’am, this is an on-going investigation’. He initially said, ‘There’s been an accident and David is dead’. I asked what kind of accident and was told ‘this is an active investigation and I cannot answer that’. I asked if it was a car accident and he told me No. I asked if Kristy was OK and he said she was home. I was desperately trying to piece together what went so tragically wrong last Thursday night and he gave me no relief – no compassion – no answers. I was alone in my home – on my knees begging him ….PLEASE – you cannot tell a Mother her son is dead and not tell her HOW – WHY – BY WHO. He finally told me it was a gunshot wound and they knew who did it but he was not in jail. He then gave me the Medical Examiners Phone Number and told me to call the Carolina Medical Center. I have learned most of the details surrounding David’s death from the News stories. When Detective Smith called me the second time – almost 12 hours later and relayed a few more details I told him I already knew all that – I heard it on the news. His response…’Don’t believe everything you hear on the news’. Well what are we to believe if the police won’t tell us? David’s gone – nothing will bring him home to his beautiful, innocent little boy or his family and many friends but Ryan Cochran needs to be held accountable.  Like David’s Facebook Banner says – All we need is Faith in the Rock. The truth will come out. Please sign this petition.

To sign the petition, please click on this link.

Thank you, and please keep my friend Shawn and especially her now fatherless grandchild in your prayers. Love, Therese

Grace Lee Whitney — 1930-2015

Friends, I’m sad to confirm that indeed, Grace Lee Whitney has passed at the age of 85, at her home on May 1st.  I’ll be writing a longer post soon — sorry about the confusion. Rest in Peace, Sweet Grace. ❤    http://www.nbcnews.com/pop-culture/tv/grace-lee-whitney-yeoman-rand-original-star-trek-dies-n353001

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Eulogy for Leonard by Rabbi John L. Rosove

This was so beautiful, I had to share it.  This is a portion of the eulogy from Mr. Nimoy’s funeral by Rabbi John L. Rosove.  I had never heard the stories about Germany and Russia before.  What an incredible man.   Peace and Long Life to you all.

(Author’s note: What follows is a portion of my eulogy at Leonard’s funeral on Sunday morning, March 1. He was married to my dear first cousin, Susan.)

Leonard shared with me after he and Susan married 26 years ago that he had never met a woman like her, never had he loved anyone so dearly and passionately, that she’d saved his life and lifted him from darkness and unhappiness in ways he never thought possible. His love, appreciation, respect, and gratitude for her transformed him and enabled him to begin his life anew.

Susan – you were a stellar, loving and brilliant life-partner for your Leib. He knew it and in loving you he learned how to love his own children and grandchildren more deeply, and he came to recognize that his family was his greatest treasure and gift.

At the moment Leonard’s soul left him on Friday morning, his family had gathered around him in a ring of love. Leonard smiled, and then he was gone. It was gentle passing, as easy as a “hair being lifted from a cup of milk,” as the Talmud describes the moment of death. What did Leonard see? We can’t know, but Susan imagines that he beheld his beloved cocker spaniel Molly, an angelic presence in life and now in death.

My wife Barbara and I shared much with Susan and Leonard over the years, in LA and in so many spectacular places around the world – so many joys and not a few challenges, and through it all we grew to love Leonard as a dear member of our family and were honored that he felt towards us as members of his own family.

At his 80th birthday celebration three years ago, I publicly thanked him for all he’d meant to my family and me, for being the love of Susan’s life, and for bringing her so much happiness.

Kind-hearted, gentle, patient, refined, and keenly intelligent was he.

As I listened to NPR’s story of his passing on Friday, I was struck by how uniquely recognizable to the world was his voice, not only because of its innate resonance and gentle tone, but because it emanated who he was as a man and as a mensch.

He was unflappably honest and warm-hearted. He embodied integrity and decency. He was humble and a gentleman. His keen sensitivity and intuition connected him with the world and offered him keen insight into the human condition. Whatever he said and did was compelling, inspiring and provocative. He strove always for excellence.

Leonard’s Hebrew name was Yehudah Lev, meaning “a Jew with a heart.” His interests and concerns were founded upon his faith and belief in the inherent dignity of every human being, and he treated everyone regardless of station, friend or stranger, with kindness and respect. His world view was enriched by his Jewish spirit and experience.

Leonard was nurtured in the Yiddish-speaking culture of his childhood on the West End of Boston, yet he transcended the particular categories with which he was raised. He cared about the Jews of the former Soviet Union, about Jews everywhere, and he was concerned for all people as well.

Because he grew up as a minority in his neighborhood, even sensing at times that he was an outcast living on the margins (which is what his Spock character was all about), Leonard adventured out from the conservative home and culture of his youth, courageously at a very young age, into the world where he sought greater truth and understanding. He was curious about everything and was a life-long learner.

Leonard appreciated his success, never taking his fame and good fortune for granted. He was generous with family, friends and so many good causes often contributing without being asked, quietly and under the radar, to individuals and causes selflessly, without need of acknowledgment or credit. In his later years, he learned that by fixing his name to some gifts, he could inspire others to give as well.

Over the years, from the time he performed in the Yiddish theater as a young actor, Leonard was particularly drawn to Jewish roles in film, television, stage, and radio. Most enduringly he brought the gesture of the Biblical High Priest to the world’s attention as an iconic symbol of blessing. He was amused that his fans unsuspectingly blessed each other as they held up their hands and said, “Live long and prosper!”

Most recently, Leonard created magnificent mystical images of feminine Godliness in his Shekhina photographs, one of which he gave to me as a gift graces my synagogue study and adds a spiritual dimension for me of everything I do in my life as a rabbi.

One year Leonard asked me what I thought of his accepting an invitation from Germany to speak before thousands of Star Trek fans. He told me that he’d been asked before but always turned the invitation down due to his own discomfort about setting in a country that had murdered six million Jews. I told him that I thought it was time that he went, and that he take the opportunity to inform a new generation of Germans about who he was as a Jew and about the Jewish dimension of Spock’s personality and outlook. He liked the idea, and so on that basis accepted the invitation.

When he returned he told me that he had shared with the audience his own Jewish story and that Spock’s hand gesture was that of the Jewish High Priest blessing the Jewish community, an image he remembered from his early childhood attending shul with his grandfather in West Boston on Shabbes morning and peeking out from under his grandfather’s tallis at the Kohanim-priests as they raised their hands in blessing over the congregation.

He told me that when he finished his talk he received a sustained standing ovation, an experience that was among the most moving in his public life.

There’s another incident worth recalling.

The Soviet Film Institute had invited Leonard in the mid 1980s to come to Moscow to speak about Star Trek IV, which he had directed. Leonard agreed to come on the condition that he be granted free passage to Zaslov, Ukraine to visit Nimoy relatives he’d never met. The Soviet officials refused, so Leonard declined. Then they had a change of heart and caved, and he and Susan visited the Ukrainian Nimoys thus reuniting two branches of his family tree divided eighty years earlier. Who else but Leonard Nimoy could stare down the former Soviet Union and win!?

Over time, Leonard became one of the most positive Jewish role models in the world. He cared about all the right things, about promoting the Jewish arts, about peace and reconciliation between people and nations, and about greater justice in our own society.

He and I talked frequently about our love for Israel and its need for peace. He understood that a democratic Jewish state could survive only alongside a peaceful Palestinian state. He was disgusted by terrorism and war, disheartened by Israeli and Palestinian inability and recalcitrance to find compromise and a way forward towards a two-state solution and peace, and he was infuriated by continuing Israeli West Bank settlement construction and by both Islamic and Jewish fundamentalist extremism.

Though keenly aware of, knowledgeable about and savvy when it came to national and world politics and history, Leonard was at his core a humanitarian and an artist, and that was the lens through which he viewed the world.

Among his favorite quotations was that spoken by the 19th century actor Edwin Booth who claimed to have heard the solemn whisper of the god of all arts:

“I shall give you hunger and pain and sleepless nights, also beauty and satisfaction known to few, and glimpses of the heavenly life. None of these shall you have continually, and of their coming and going you shall not be foretold.”

Leonard did indeed glimpse the heavenly life in his artistic pursuits and in his love for his family and friends.

In thinking of him, I am reminded of Shakespeare’s words:

“Give me my Romeo; and, when he shall die,
Take him and cut him out in little stars,
And he will make the face of heaven so fine
That all the world will be in love with night
And pay no worship to the garish sun.”

“Romeo and Juliet,” Act III, Scene 2

I’ve never known anyone like Leonard – he was utterly unique. I loved him and will cherish his memory always.

Zicharon tzaddik livracha – May the memory of this righteous man be a blessing.

Tributes for Leonard

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There have been so many tributes for Leonard that I’ve collected as many as I can here.    He was so very loved and will be never be forgotten. ❤  We just loved him!

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http://www.bostonglobe.com/metro/2015/02/27/leonard-nimoy-spock-star-trek-became-cultural-icon/yYSDjlNOdmp7kh5mFQJq1O/story.html

http://www.bostonglobe.com/metro/2015/02/27/leonard-nimoy-voice-will-live-boston-museum-science/e0fiAZODwd5awgoSsZdv7H/story.html

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/28/astronaut-leonard-nimoy_n_6776462.html

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/27/celebrites-mourn-leonard-nimoy_n_6770566.html

http://www.bustle.com/articles/67048-leonard-nimoys-best-feminist-moments-from-his-full-body-project-to-his-fight-for-equal-rights?utm_source=FBTraffic&utm_medium=fijifrost&utm_campaign=CMfacebook

http://spock.littlethings.com/spock-leonard-nimoy-live-long-prosper/?utm_source=spcl&utm_medium=Facebook&utm_campaign=tribute

http://www.vulture.com/2015/02/simpsons-writer-al-jean-remembers-leonard-nimoy.html

http://www.vulture.com/2015/02/president-obama-speaks-on-death-of-leonard-nimoy.html?mid=outbrainrc

http://www.vulture.com/2015/02/20-cool-things-nimoy-did-other-than-star-trek.html

http://nypost.com/2015/02/28/leonard-nimoy-made-sci-fi-cool/

http://www.npr.org/2015/02/28/389706306/nimoy-is-gone-but-mr-spock-will-live-forever

http://www.npr.org/2015/03/01/389594443/mr-spock-and-the-consolations-of-solitude

http://www.npr.org/2015/02/28/389796980/mr-spock-was-a-biracial-role-model-of-notable-cool

Goodnight, Sweet Vulcan – Leonard Nimoy 1931-2015

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(L) Leonard Nimoy as Spock, 1966, for TV Guide (R) Leonard Nimoy in 2013, Original Photo by Therese Bohn

Dear Friends,

I know I could never improve on the words that thousands of others have written today as we mourn the passing of Mr. Nimoy, but I do want to share my own experience  with you this sad day, and I send you all my deepest sympathy.

My first focus of this day, February 27, 2015,  was remembering my darling Mother, Anna, who would have turned 95 today. (She passed in 2013) Of course, I was also thinking of Mr. Nimoy, whom many of us had been praying for this past week.  This afternoon, while at my sister’s home, her son texted her a question, and she turned to me.  “Therese, did Leonard Nimoy die?”

I blinked, my mind instantly thinking He’s gone.  And I just said “I don’t know, can you check it?”  My sister scanned her smartphone.  She told me he had just died this morning. I sighed. We talked a little, put on the kettle and settled in for a good game of Scrabble.

It’s been several hours now yet surprisingly,  I haven’t shed any tears; at least not yet, for I think it hasn’t really resonated yet.  Or it could be that I’ve been expecting this day more ever since Mr. Nimoy revealed his COPD last year?

A lot of feelings are coursing through me.  It’s a very sad day, of course, and like you, and anyone else reading this, I’m very sad.   Sad for his wife and his children, grandchildren, and close friends.  Sad for his surviving Trek friends and  colleagues.  Sad for the millions of his admirers around the world who loved him almost as much as one of their own.   Sad that he ever took up smoking, and that he got so sick.

Yet there is so much to be thankful for today too.  Thankful for all the joy that he brought to the world. Thankful that I got to see him and hear that lovely speaking voice in person twice! Thankful for the laugh, those eyes, and his wonderful presence. Thankful that he passed at home and not in a hospital.  Thankful that he left a great legacy of creative talent acting, writing, directing, and photography behind him.  And so thankful that he brought to life one of the coolest, most unforgettable and most enduring characters in  American pop culture.  And then there is a part of me that feels almost relief — relief that the poor man is out of pain and now is breathing free in the heavens, and back with his parents and his dear friend DeForest Kelley.

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A lot of people felt a deep, deep affection for his character of Mr. Spock.  I think it’s because Spock addressed the misfit in all of us; battling with both sides of his heritage as neither truly Vulcan or Human.   How many of us as middle-schoolers identified with Spock because we looked different from the ‘regular kids’ or we weren’t the jocks or the cheerleaders but the awkward, geeky type?  Spock served as a role model who said “Sure, I’m different, but I’m still valuable.”  Spock also showed tolerance and compassion, two characteristics sadly lacking in many modern fictional characters.

Leonard Nimoy will be so terribly missed and yet so fondly remembered,  for he was so loved all over the world.  He truly squeezed out every bit of life left to him to enjoy what every day would bring.  He never forgot why he became famous, and was grateful to all the fans who first appreciated his talent and all that came after.   We will never forget him.

On a very personal note, the odd connection between this particular date, Mr. Nimoy, and my Mom brings me a sense of happiness too.  How’s that?  Well, when my Mom passed in 2013, I was quite devastated by her death and couldn’t imagine anything making me feel any better for quite a while. Only a few days into my mourning  I received an e-mail from Symphony Space in NYC announcing that Mr. Nimoy would be there in person after a new performance of his play Vincent (with Jean-Michel Richaud).  Seeing this suddenly lifted my spirits, and I was determined to go. A couple of my siblings wondered if it was right to travel 300 miles alone while my heart was still broken, but I knew I had to, and when I saw Mr. Nimoy right there in person, it filled me with a fan-girl glee that briefly erased my sorrow.  I am even more thankful now that I decided to take the trip, and when Mr. Nimoy graciously let me get my picture taken with him, even though he was in a hurry, it just made me feel so alive again.   So Grateful.

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So when Mr. Nimoy passed on this particular day as I celebrate the memory of what would have been a milestone in my Mom’s life, I smile a little, for I’m sure she’d share some of her Heavenly birthday cake with him. 🙂

By the way, my Mom liked Leonard too – not to the extent her teenage daughter did, but she thought he was  a handsome, very good and caring actor.  She also admired that he was a fellow Massachusetts resident (she was from Worchester).   And remember the Scrabble game I mentioned earlier?   When we were picking a letter tile each to see who’d go first, my letter — no kidding –was ‘L‘.  Maybe it was Leonard saying hello?  I smiled.

Goodnight, Sweet Vulcan.  Your legacy will truly Live Long and Prosper.

For more wonderful links about Leonard Nimoy’s life, click here here, here,  and here.

Lauren Bacall 1924-2014

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No-nonsense Lauren Bacall in the 1940’s.

I’m a little late on this one, but no less sincere. Hollywood lost yet another talent this past week with the passing of smokey-voiced Lauren Bacall.

Lauren was an icon of classic movies, and I am always happy to find one of her movies on TCM.  On screen she was a no-nonsense dame, whether flirting on screen with                Humphrey Bogart or Gregory Peck, you knew who had the upper hand in these romances.

She was only 19 when she made her screen debut in To Have and to Have Not  with Bogart, whose rough exterior seemed an odd coupling with the angular teen. But they sparked onscreen and off, and were happily married for 12 years until his passing in 1957.  She was married to Jason Robards (Jr.) from 1961-1969 and had two children from Bogart and one from Robards.

Bacall was well loved by movie fans the world over, but as she said ” “Stardom isn’t a career. It is an accident.”  Bacall was foremost an actress, albeit an amazingly glamorous one, and when you compare her work to the sad parade of comic-book female types that populate the blockbusters these days, she has (and will) stand head and shoulders above them for years to come.

I think one thing that draws me back over and over to classic films of Bacall, Bette Davis and Katherine Hepburn is they way they portrayed strong, intelligent, independent women on the screen.   These women had presence and power that reminded women that you didn’t have be an air-head to be noticed.  There are few of these screen legends left now; we still have Olivia De Haviland, Maureen O’Hara, Doris Day and Kirk Douglas, but I really miss seeing mature men and women portrayed in today’s movies. So often movie heroes are just overgrown boys and beach bunnies.  Modern Hollywood summer blockbusters leave me flat, and really good ‘women’s pictures’ are few and far between.   I suppose the only place left to find good stories about men and women is in the independent cinema.  But it’s sad to see, as these legends pass, the quality of stories go down.  Perhaps when Hollywood finally acknowledges that there are movie-goers out there that are outside the 18-24 demographic, we’ll see a return to good drama (but I’m not holding my breath).

But back to Bacall. If you want to see a no-nonsense dame flip a man’s world upside down, watch Lauren nibble Gregory Peck’s ear in Designing Woman, or distract Kirk Douglas in Young Man with a Horn. Bacall could surely kick any reality star fame-monger to the curb with a single glance. Betty Bacall, we’ll never forget you.

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Arlene Martel 1936-2014

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So sad to report another beloved celebrity passing.  Arlene Martel, who became immortal as Spock’s betrothed T’Pring, passed away today at the age of 78. Arlene was a fixture at Trek conventions and had numerous TV appearances on classic TV series like The Monkees, Wild Wild West, and Hogan’s Heroes and Columbo.

Arlene shared a lesson she learned from her T’Pring experience on her official website:

“The primary lesson for me on Amok Time was a lesson in K.I.S.S. (“Keep It Simple, Stupid”). Our director Joe Pevney, contrary to what most directors usually request of the actor, said “give me less, give me less”. Previous to that, most of the women I played had been highly charged with emotion. Playing a character as emotionally controlled as “T’Pring” was certainly a first for me. It was a welcome challenge,” she continues. “Controlling my energy was a very wonderful discipline, and playing a person who was ruled by logic was also a new experience. Now, hopefully, I’ve integrated both, but at the time it was my first professional encounter with an analytical and objective being.”

Arlene was a lovely, talented actress, writer, and producer who will be sadly missed.  Rest in Peace dear lady.

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Leonard Nimoy with Arlene at a convention in 1976

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A lovely, recent portrait of Arlene

 

 

 

Robin Williams was Joy

Heartbreaking. So sad to think that a man who could scare away so many of our demons with his magnificent humor could not be rid of his own.

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A great Photoshop of a patrician Williams by artist Mandrak

On my kitchen windowsill, I keep assorted knick-knacks and glassware.  I’ve had a little blue dancing ‘Genie’ from Aladdin there for many years, and even though he lost his ponytail, I couldn’t bear to toss it because the memory of Williams as that marvelous genie always put a smile on my face.

I’ve loved Robin Williams forever.  True,  I never watched Mork and Mindy*, but I was aware of him through his comedy routines and movies. As the Genie from Aladdin, one could see parallels between that particular character and Robin.  Like the Genie, Robin was always ‘on’; ever trying to please, ever making his masters happy.  Robin succeeded in making so many people happy, and he was so beloved throughout the world.  But generosity often hides pain, and in Robin’s case it was the hell of depression, addiction, and  a bi-polar brain.  Despite this, he kept giving and giving, until he could give no more. But the joy he gave in performing, the sheer effervescence of his genius will live on.     My heart goes out to him and his family, this is going to be rough. There will never be another Robin Williams, our Genie of Joy.

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My kitchen window. It rained this morning. Tears from Heaven.

The image below sums it all up.  ‘Genie, You are Free.” Rest in sweet Peace.

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*I’ll surely watch it soon.

Paul Mazursky

Sad to hear of the passing of Actor and Director Paul Mazursky  who was lauded for his directorial satires like Bob and Ted and Carol and Alice, and  An Unmarried Woman. Mazursky also acted in many TV shows and movies, including Deathwatch (1966) where he started his lifelong friendship with Leonard Nimoy.  Our deepest condolences to his family and friends; the movie industry needs more directors like Mazursky now more than ever.

Here’s a lovely, funny video of Mazursky chatting with Nimoy.  Rest in Peace, Mr. Mazursky.  😦

Actress, Trek Guest Star, Sarah Marshall (Dr. Janet Wallace) Passes

I just read that actress Sarah Marshall passed away on January 18th.  Trekkies remember her as Dr. Janet Wallace in the Star Trek episode The Deadly Years. Another of her famous roles was as the mother in the classic, suspenseful Twilight Zone episode “Little Girl Lost”Born in Britain, Ms. Wallace made her film debut in The Long Hot Summer.  As Janet Wallace on Trek, she flirted and fretted over the rapidly aging Captain Kirk, and I admire her for wearing what have been an awfully uncomfortable burlap pink and yellow pantsuit in that episode!

Alas, she was only 80, and sadly died from stomach cancer. She’s survived by her husband and son.  May she rest in peace.   l leave you with these stills of this lovely actress.

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Film Debut in The Long Hot Summer

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Sarah, with actor Robert Sampson in “Little Girl Lost” on The Twilight Zone

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As Dr. Janet Wallace, in Star Trek (The Deadly Years)

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